If you want a personal avatar next to your name, you will need to link to one off site.
Click on “User Control Panel” at the top of every page on the Ex-Mormon Forums.
On the side, under “Options”, click on Profile.
Under the Profile Options, click on Edit Avatar.
On the line “Link off-site”, put in a link to an offsite image.
Example:http://www.absorbentprinting.com/images ... 117-th.jpg
That would put a beach ball as your avatar. You can google search anywhere you want, or find an image you have stored on your own blog or website.
For instance, here is a bunch of beach balls (small icons)http://images.google.com/images?as_q=be ... ff&as_st=y